Life is constantly surprising us with obstacles – there’s not much we can do about that. What we can do, however, is optimize how we deal with those challenges when they do come along.
- Keep your energy positive. When things get tough, it’s important to stay as positive and good-humored as possible. Your emotions directly affect your thinking – freaking out will muddle your mind and make it more difficult to look for solutions. Think of it this way: a problem is here and you have to deal with it. Would you rather do it feeling good or stressed out? By staying positive, you can approach obstacles with a clear mind, curiosity, and lack of judgment. You’ll be able to find a solution more quickly and feel good in the process.
- Graciously ask for help. Do not be afraid to ask for help and more importantly, be gracious to everyone regardless of whether they are the cause or solution to your obstacle. Your difficult situation is probably not their fault – and even if it is, you don’t want anyone feeling resistant towards helping you solve it. You are as strong as your support system, so create an environment where people want to help you.
- Become ruthlessly solutions-oriented. Most problems have more than one solution, and the more we train ourselves to actively look for them, the quicker we become at finding them. If you train yourself to look for solutions, that is what you will find.
While you can’t avoid obstacles, you can transform them into opportunities to become more resilient, skilled, and resourceful.